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Is that what you call your missionaries who dont listen to you?
Did Jesus teach you and others to call names?
WN has had plenty of dealing with the CAB and proved it with facts.
You are setting such a fine example for your offspring.
Is that what you call your missionaries who dont listen to you?
Did Jesus teach you and others to call names?
WN has had plenty of dealing with the CAB and proved it with facts.
You are setting such a fine example for your offspring.
The Letter of James, in the New Testament, includes a lengthy disquisition about the natural difficulty of reining in this kind of talk.
For every species of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by the human species, but no one can tame the tongue--a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse those who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this ought not to be so. (3:7-10)
I'm not sure that I would characterize the tongue as "a restless evil," but the writer makes an important point. Speech can wound.
Email and other web-based and digital communications make this an even more dangerous game. How easy it is to post a snarky comment, engage in character assassination, or, to use an underutilized word, be mean, under the easy guise of "humor."
Malicious humor is sinful for several reasons. First, it is uncharitable. It is an act that does not proceed from love. Second, it fails to respect the dignity of the person. Third, if done behind a person's back, it "steals," in a sense, the person's good name, without giving the person the right to defend himself or herself. (Like those fictional feathers, malicious humor travels to places the speaker cannot have anticipated.)
Jesus of Nazareth, in a passage that is often overlooked perhaps because of an obscure word, once commented on this brand of humor. One translation has it: "If a person calls another person raca, then he is answerable to the Sanhedrin, and if you say “you fool” will be liable to the fires of Gehenna.” (Mt. 5:22) Raca is an Aramaic word for "empty-headed." Jesus is saying, in essence, that malicious talk could land you in hell.
Here is an important fact about that short passage: some Scripture scholars believe that one indication that a phrase came directly from the mouth of Jesus is the preservation of an Aramaic word or phrase. Two familiar examples are "Abba" (Jesus's common way of speaking to God the Father) or "Talitha cum," his words to a young girl thought dead. ("Little girl, get up!) (Mk. 5:11) The words themselves were notable enough to become part of the story, and may have been preserved by the writers of the Gospel for their historicity, but also for what they may have said about Jesus.
For example, it was probably striking to his contemporaries that Jesus would use the familiar Aramaic term "Abba," to address the Almighty. (It is an affectionate way of speaking to a father, rather than the more formal way that most Jews of the time addressed God, whose name could not even be pronounced.) Both of these Aramaic phrases--“Abba” and “Talitha cum”--lend these particular Gospel passages an extra level of authenticity; they imply an eyewitness account, rather than a story told by someone who was not present, or heard the story second-hand.
Likewise, raca may be one such example of a striking word used by Jesus preserved in its original Aramaic form. Thus, many who read the New Testament carefully, and take from it so many specific doctrines, regulations and prohibitions, sometimes fail to consider this prohibition on malicious humor, which may have come directly from Jesus's lips.
In general, we can usually tell when humor crosses the line. Most of us have an internal gauge that tells us know when a joke moves from playful to hurtful. The voice of our conscience is usually loud and clear on this point. But if you still feel that your internal gauge needs some fine-tuning, or even an overhaul, you might ask yourself the following questions that my spiritual director once shared with me, slightly adapted from the writings of Krishnamurti, the popular spiritual leader and New Age icon (1895-1986). They are the three doors that charitable speech must pass through.
The gatekeeper at the first door asks, "Is it true?"
The second gatekeeper asks, "Is it helpful?"
The third gatekeeper asks, "Is it kind?"
Good humor is true (it reveals a truth); it is helpful (helps others and the group, perhaps to understand something, to lighten a difficult situation, to self-deprecate, or for any of the other reasons mentioned in earlier chapters); and it is kind (it is neither harmful nor destructive.) Those three gates are a good thing to keep in mind whenever we open our mouths for a joke or otherwise.
Excerpted from Between Heaven and Mirth: Why Joy, Humor and Laughter are at the Heart of the Spiritual Life